Anonymous asked: not to be lame, but what words of advice do you have for someone about to have sex for the first time? you seem like a sexy lady, someone who can give sound advice...

It’s not lame at all! 

As far as advice, make absolutely sure that you are ready and it is something you really want to do—for yourself, and not because someone else wants you to, or because you feel like you should. If you understand yourself, your desires, your body and your sexuality first, it will probably lend to a better experience.

I obsessively researched and read about sex and losing virginity before I finally did it. I also talked to quite a few of my close friends about their first time, just to have real life examples. There was no fear or insecurity—and it turned out quite a lovely experience. No tears and hardly any pain. It was something I really wanted to do, and I glowed all the way home after. 

So, you know yourself better than anyone else, and really someone else’s advice isn’t necessarily going to be applicable. General things that will help, however, is having a partner you trust and are comfortable with. He should be someone you can communicate with—and definitely communicate. As well, doing it in a nice, comfortable, safe environment, will set you more at ease and make the whole experience more enjoyable. I shouldn’t have to mention, but it should always be reiterated: practice safe sex. There is no excuse for not using a condom.

Aside from that, lube can also help. Don’t rush into anything, and allow lots of foreplay so that you’re fully aroused. Finger fucking tends to always make me want a cock inside of me—but do what you like to do best, and have fun. You probably shouldn’t expect to have earth shattering orgasms your first time—but it shouldn’t exactly be a miserable experience either, so make sure your partner can give pleasure as much as taking it. 

(& write back how it goes!)