Anonymous asked: How much do you find that sadomasochistic praxis amounts to a de-emphasis of the genitals as the primary locus of sexual pleasure? And do you find that, at least for your embodied subjectivity (per Foucault), the concomitant of this de-emphasis is that gender (viz genital configuration), and sexual "orientation" of your partners is or would be of relatively lesser importance?

Sorry to take all the fun out of sex.

I don’t believe overintellectualizing sex has to take the fun out of it (though I don’t believe it’s particularly necessary, either).

BDSM doesn’t de-emphasis the genitals in and of itself, for me. What it does is add a different, at times psychological, aspect to the overall sexual experience, so that it can become arousing and provocative, but I am not one of those practitioners who gets off with a good spanking. I need sexual stimulation (of the direct, physical sort) for something I truly enjoy and can turn into a form of escapism.

But is gender/orientation of lesser importance? It was never, definitively important to start. S&M doesn’t really make it less important, though I suppose it does open new avenues of expression. I don’t think that sexual experience overall should be limited by “orientation.”

That is to say, if you’re asking if I like girls, I do. Though I haven’t had many opportunities to properly explore it, probably because I simply adore cock too much.

Anything else?